An important measure of your personal and spiritual expansion is the extent to which you are the master of your emotions
Emotions are the currency we use to develop, learn and grow. When you own what you feel, you place the accountability onto you, where it belongs. When others say or do things that trigger or provoke negative emotions in you, it is not the other person’s “fault.” In fact, the concept of blame is rooted in 3D victim mentality where something outside of you is the source of your suffering. To transform in the shift, allow what triggers you in the outer world to inform healing in your inner world, and own everything you feel.
Your emotions do not own you, you own them. How you respond to emotional triggers is a choice—to either fuel the fires of separation consciousness (old paradigm), or to use your feelings as a springboard for inner growth. When you master your emotions, you recognize, address and integrate the feelings that arise—both those that happen in your interactions and relationships with people and the world, and those that you experience in your inner world in your relationship to yourself.
Mastering your emotions is an act of choosing a gentle, detached state of quietude. Many people choose to remain in cycles of pain and drama, allowing their own and others’ emotional creations to rule their worlds. When you are at peace with yourself, you invite only those people and circumstances that maintain the balance and peace you have worked hard to create. Detachment is key. You can choose not to participate in others’ drama and emotional recklessness, and to recognize when you are adding emotional fuel to a situation or circumstance. The more you choose your place of quiet balance, the more you draw that same energy to you in your outer world.
Invite, accept and feel whatever comes your way, whether it is caused by feelings inside of you, or by a mirroring factor in your outer world. Instead of pushing difficult or painful feelings away, stay with them. Feel them. Ask what lies underneath to be healed and integrated. At the root of every difficult feeling is some form of contraction: a rejection or resistance of the self. As you create a safe inner place to allow difficult feelings (pain, fear, frustration, irritation, rejection, resentment, guilt, etc.), you release the tension in that contraction and you automatically expand your consciousness. Eventually, you arrive at a place of peace, because, having released the tension, your emotional triggers increasingly dwindle. There is less and less healing required.
To walk the path of emotional mastery, you can:
- Notice when something or someone triggers difficult or painful feelings
- Choose to abandon victim mentality and own your feelings—no more blaming someone or something on the outside for how you feel
- Sit with and embrace the feelings that disturb you —they are opportunities to move beyond low vibration and to integrate whatever is needed for you to come into alignment with your spiritual self
- Trust yourself: emotional work and the resulting transformation is shown to you with the help of others and the outside world, but takes place through your relationship to yourself